Attraction: byproduct of our biological wiring, what we learned from our family & friends growing up, cultural factors & what we see in the media.
Healthy living & healthy weight does NOT mean skinny. In fact studies show that normal weight women were considered more healthy & attractive than overweight AND underweight gals. The JLO body is far preferred to the Paris Hiltons of the world.
I think most of us know that physical attractiveness is NOT the most important factor when it comes to selecting a mate, especially for women. We multi-taskers like multi-facets. In fact, the odds that a single woman 40-69 is primarily looking for a physically attractive man are 1 in 10.
In contrast, the odds for men are 1 in 3.23, which interestingly, are the same odds that he sleeps in the nude! Not sure of the connection! According to studies, men are primarily attracted to the stereotypical thin, seductive & confident types. But don’t be too hard on the guys. Men are not the only ones with a superficial bone or 2. Another study found that a man who is 5 feet tall would need to make $325 K/ yr more than a 6 ft man, to be as successful in the dating arena.
Overall, we cannot CHOOSE who we are attracted to, but we CAN make ourselves more attractive to the opposite sex. For women, if you are carrying a little extra weight, there is a trick that can make you appear lighter. Wanna know? According to a study by the Smell & Taste Treatment & Research Foundation, wearing a spicy floral fragrance can make a woman SEEM to be 12 pounds thinner to men. A tip for guys is to wear red! The color red has been linked to strength, power, authority & status. Psychologists have found that red induces feelings of love & passion & may make a man appear more attractive, powerful & sexually desirable to women.
But, beyond spicy floral scents & red polos, having a healthy body image is what’s most important. Appreciate your body & do not try to conform to what our culture says is attractive. That does NOT mean that we should have unrealistic expectations & a take it or leave it attitude. If you know that you are carrying a little excess baggage, physically or otherwise, then DO something about it! But do it for yourself first! When you assume responsibility for your body & your health & begin transforming your life in a positive way, your body image will naturally improve & your confidence will shine!
There are many psychological benefits of healthy living:
- More energy = Greater productivity = more accomplishment in personal & professional life. The time that you put into exercise is truly given back to you.
- Higher energy people are naturally more magnetic.
- Exercise elevates endorphins & serotonin levels which are the hormones that regulate your mood.
- Less anxiety over social situations – dress up for a special event or bathing suit & that feeling of dread overwhelms you. The way our clothes look & feel affects how we feel about ourselves & how we present ourselves in social situations.
I have heard many stories from my Personal Training & Wellness Coaching clients who had dropped sizes, whose clothes were getting looser & who felt like they had a new lease on life!
Taking action toward a healthier, better quality of living does wonders for your self-esteem. Imagine waking up in the morning, looking in the mirror & LOVING what you see. Being able to wear whatever clothes you want & buy NEW clothes in smaller sizes. When your body is lighter & your clothes are looser there is a sense of freedom & uplift that allows you to feel more comfortable in your skin!
When you commit to an exercise program, your mindset changes. You do not want to eat & drink things that will counter your hard work & results. There is a wonderful feeling of accomplishment when you put forth effort & reach your goal!